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I hope you don't mind me saying this, but I can kinda see both sides. I can feel your stress building as the days pass and get closer to leaving time. Sometimes stress motivates me and sometimes it disables me. Perhaps right now, your body is telling you to get moving and his might be telling him it's too much to handle? We both know how emotions can affect us so is it possible his stress is shutting him down?

But, I would be absolutely furious if I was in your position and seeing the clock ticking with not much geting done unless you do it yourself! I would also feel so guilty if I was so stressed that my body was working against me....and my guilt would only add to my immobilization.

I'm can only talk from my experiences of being on both sides of myself, but obviously, his side of this is obviously weighing on the situation and creating a build-up of aggrivation btwn you (from what I can see, anyway). Since you both feel like family to me, I hate to see you guys butting heads. But I also don't know anyway to motivate him to push past whatever is going on in his head and body.

When i'm like that....the only thing that can move me is something that is so pressing that I absolutely HAVE to get myself up and moving right then or there will be serious conscequences by the end of the day. Knowing that a deadline is several days away...i usually feel so physically awful that I tell myself that when it gets down to the absolute wire....I can somehow force myself into superwoman gear and work straight through the nights and days to get it done.

Actually, that's almost exactly what happened the day of my move. I'd been so drained by the stress that I was immobilized until the final wire. Then....I pushed myself for 2 days straight without any sleep and only smoke breaks. I can't tell you how physically hard it was to move heavy boxes into the trailer that final day after exhausting myself already by packing those same boxes....but i did it. It was a very painful few days...but it got done....with my car packed so tight I and the least amount of space needed to still be able to drive! A baby mouse couldn't have even squeezed into the packing job i had to do!

The ONLY other way to get me upright and moving when i'm down like he's been (other than being literally dragged out of bed)....is espresso! It can get me awake enough to move a little and works long enough to sometimes keep me moving....although I often just have to down another 2-3 shots of espresso (mixed with milk and chocolate of course).

Has he given you any other explination besides his back? Is it possible he made his back worse when he did jump after the landlord dropped the hammer on you guys?

Really, all I know is that moving is stressful for nearly everyone...especially moving half-way across the country while dealing with the situations and events you guys have had to deal with. It's a lot. And I love you both and don't want to see any of this tear you guys apart or hurt your relationship in any way. I wish I could help somehow.

I love you,
Jenna