I´ve been a part of a group who meets every other Monday night to discuss philosophie and théologie. We raise funds as well for ex-criminals and Juveniles as we all had this in common.
Three women there get on my nerves because they are so rude. They call me without introducing themselves and just tell me this and that has to be done, will you take or if, ciao. Then they are loud and vulgaire sometimes and keep giving orders. I´m very tired of their company, but on the other hand the group has given me a lot.
It´s rife now with problems and inner struggles. I have decided to stay for a social project that means a lot to me and we´ll be doing that until spring, but after that I will quit and start working more for Amnesty International.
One of the women is particularly trying. She keeps coming to me, gets inside my physical limits and stares at me. Then after I raise my eyebrows, she says something personal about me, often: “Oh, my poor thing. You look so sad. No wonder, after the life you´ve had. I´m so sorry. And now you´re growing older and then - misery keeps just adding up."
I met her in a department store last weekend. I was in a good mood, trying on a nice long skirt. As luck would have it and Paris is so small, this woman was there. She stared at me and commented: “This does nothing for you.” I got angry and said: “Well, did I ask for your opinion?” She said nothing so I said: “Well, let me get on with my shopping.” She told me she only wanted to help and I told her didn´t need any. Afterwards she complained to the other women how awful I had been to her. I called her and told her what I had heard and told her if she had something to say about me, to please say it to me directly. She wanted to argue with me but I told her I had it up to here with her and I would not argue.
I need to hang on till spring, but I feel this woman is angry because I don´t like her. Co-dependence in action. Maybe I´m too direct? Now I´m trying to ignore her, but she just keeps going strong.
I need some support here and maybe someone has an advice to share, or has had problems with rudeness. I find it very difficult to take.
"Let no one bring me so low that I start to hate him." - Cape Fear" - Martin Scorsese.