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digderidoo · 10-08-2008, 06:29 AM

Being new to having a sponsor, i have worried about this. Things i tell my sponsor i would have thought should be in confidence.

I asked his advice today over an anger management issue with my son. Basically i was considering talking to my son about my own issues and how i deal with them now, i wanted a bit of advice on it. After talking to my sponsor about this he said he needed a bit of time to think, which was fine. About an hour later he phoned me saying that he mentioned it to his own sponsor, because he felt as though he needed another opinion.

Now his sponsor is a nice guy who i get on with. But in all honesty i do not feel comfortable with the idea that some things i tell my sponsor will be related to someone else, albeit his sponsor.

The issues i am having with my son is something that i want to really keep to myself at the moment. Although i may bring it out in a meeting at some point, i really want to do it in my time.

I wondered if this is usual that sponsors will speak to their sponsors about their sponsees?? It's just that i do not feel comfortable with it.

Paul

10-08-2008, 06:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
digderidoo Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: UK Posts: 470	Does your sponsor talk to his/her sponsor for advice about your issues? Being new to having a sponsor, i have worried about this. Things i tell my sponsor i would have thought should be in confidence. I asked his advice today over an anger management issue with my son. Basically i was considering talking to my son about my own issues and how i deal with them now, i wanted a bit of advice on it. After talking to my sponsor about this he said he needed a bit of time to think, which was fine. About an hour later he phoned me saying that he mentioned it to his own sponsor, because he felt as though he needed another opinion. Now his sponsor is a nice guy who i get on with. But in all honesty i do not feel comfortable with the idea that some things i tell my sponsor will be related to someone else, albeit his sponsor. The issues i am having with my son is something that i want to really keep to myself at the moment. Although i may bring it out in a meeting at some point, i really want to do it in my time. I wondered if this is usual that sponsors will speak to their sponsors about their sponsees?? It's just that i do not feel comfortable with it. Paul