[osier59]

Hi Scotty
It's my opinion that the decision to stay or go is a very, deeply, profoundly personal one. I think your responsibility is to yourself and the children. You can detach from your A when she is drinking, and you can learn to detach with love. That means allowing her to experience her own consequences... sometimes that may mean leaving her on the floor where she landed when she passed out. However, you might cover her with a blanket if you would feel better.

You can live your own life, taking care of yourself, making sure the kids are OK. You can set a good example for them by finding and attending meetings - if you are very lucky like I was, you'll find an Al anon meeting that has an Ala teen meeting at the same time!

Once you start doing some things differently - detaching, setting and maintaining boundaries, not arguing with a drunk nor believing anything that is said under the influence of alcohol, your life can improve. There are many here who have learned to live happy and serene lives AND are still married to or connected to Actively drinking Alcoholics.

Please read everything you can find about alcoholism, detachment, co dependency etc. There are book lists and power posts at the top of the forum that may be of tremendous help.

There is another post here called Just for Today. I recommend you read it and print it out. It's a great reminder that you dont have to decide your entire future today - just take care of yourself and make it thru today. Let tomorrow be something you deal with tomorrow.

HUGS

Barb