I find that it is a not a matter of "working" the Steps but rather learning to "Live" the Steps. It is by learning to apply the Steps to all of our problems in life that we gain the promises.
My first sponsor wanted me to spend forever on each Step as well. In fact she was of the belief a Step a year. I find this ridiculous as the Big Book clearly states that Bill and many others actually did the Steps promptly sometimes within a matter of days. The Steps are the foundation of our sobriety.
My solution to my first sponsors resistence was to find start doing the Steps on my own. I even did my 5th Step with someone who wasn't my sponsor. Of course by then I had let my sponsor know that although I appreciated her help I would not be needing it anymore. Today, no matter what problem I face in life I have learned to apply the Steps to it. The Steps never fail to work the problem out for me.
Disclaimer: This of course is just my experience and opinion.....
