This is really long, so I'll only post the link. However it pretty much describes the covert abuse style of my ABF to a T. He's definately the type to makes me look like the crazy, mad, yelling lunatic while he stays calm & controlled, yet he's manipulating the S**T out of me at the same time. Turning words around, bringing up the past and making me feel miserable with out directly making it seem that way. It's truley mind boggling...
Physical & Emotional Abuse Forum: Worth Reading and re-posting... - DailyStrength
and this one too.
Physical & Emotional Abuse Forum: Some traits of emotional abusers... - DailyStrength