agreed....
right now I am treating this as if it were a drug, and praying to be "relieved of the obsession of the mind" as well as burning up my cell phone hours reaching out to other sober alcoholics with similar experience.
I completely see that in this relationship I exactly duplicated what was happening with my family, and I am desperate to get through a 4th step around this, the previous 14 years of sobriety, I thought I had laid these issues to rest through the steps and therapy but what has become very apparent to me was I avoided them by...well just hadn't worked through them thoroughly or they wouldn't be there today.
Anyway, thank you for your input, I went to dinner with an old sponsee last night and how he put it is "you are in a new playground now. The kids at the last school beat you up and were mean to you and if you go back there again I will "tell on you" and we will subject you to ridicule (my friends are pretty hardcore) and as a wise man once said "anyone who dates a newcomer gets exactly what he deserves" ( I shared that at a meeting a few days before my GF decided to get sober) and my friends have been hammering me with that quote every time I whine and complain amidst howls of laughter. :ghug2
Well Day one of being single, I had broken up with her moments before I posted that, wish me love and strength everyone, pray for me, I need all the help I can get right now, this issue has brought me to my knees.
