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there are a lot of dynamics going on here, not the least to say that at the EXACT same time YOU are trying to deal with Family of Origin issues, along comes an alcoholic.....and even tho the relationship has been rocky and ugly sometimes, with lies and yelling and pain, i bet it's also eerily familiar......and i believe when we have unresolved issues we tend to gravitate or create those issues over and over again, UNTIL we got nuts or change. keep working on YOU, stick close to your program, stick close to your sponsor, your meeting friends and associates, if you decide to dig into your past do so in a structured way - either working the steps with your sponsor, and not stopping at step 4.5.........or perhaps with a therapist or another support group (Al Anon, ACOA, Boundary workshops, etc) that is "familiar" with how best to approach these issues in a safely managed way that doesn't leave you vulnerable and exposed. good luck and take care!
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