[GiveLove]

Sometimes, a stranger who's standing outside of your situation might see things a little differently than you do.

I'm the stranger, and I'm wondering:

Why would you want to stay in a relationship with a person - ANY person, A or non, sober or not - who lies to you, sleeps around behind your back, and treats you like dirt? (and honestly, that's not fair to dirt...I treat my dirt better than she treats you)

If you were to say, "This isn't what I want for myself, I don't deserve this pain and confusion, so I'm done," would the sky come falling down, your life over, end of story?

I am thinking that it would not be hard at all to find someone who treats you better than this woman does. I think you could walk out onto the street and bump into ten people in ten minutes who would treat you better. Even the IRS, Hell's Angels, Dick Cheney, Dog the Bounty Hunter would treat you better.

It sounds like you are at least trying to learn how not to repeat the mistakes you've made over the past few years. You're trying to find your way to healing. This relationship appears to be pulling you down, not lifting you up. You are degrading yourself with this kind of dishonest filth. And you DO have a choice in the matter.

Why not walk away?

Why not get some help breaking your addiction to this person?

You deserve so much better than this.