Thank you VERY much dothi. I sent my boyfriend the "characteristics" of ACoA the other day. I had to email them to him as he works 5 hours away six days at a time. He wrote back and basically said "WOW, I had no idea that you went through that and it is alot for me to take in." I think it helped him understand me a bit better. He said that he would not judge me or my father (our families have become very close) because of my past/family habits. We have both committed to working on our communication and me - my affection and ways of reacting to certain things.
That all said and done, now I have irrational fears that he IS going to run. Or cheat. Those fears about him cheating have really started making me crazy for the past few months, we have been together jsut over a year. I realize WHY I am having these thoughts, and I know that they are irrational, but they are going to ruin me and him. How do I make them go AWAY!!!