[nandm]

I read your post to my g/f as she was also sexually abused by her uncle and a cousin at a young age. I was sexually abused by my father from a very young age, I think around 5 years old. Her mother sounds so similiar to yours about the situation. She still talks to her brother and treats him decent even though she knows what happened. My mother stayed with my father even knowing he molested my 3 sisters and I.

I think that it can make our healing even more difficult in situations like this. It is devastating and life changing enough without having someone we trust and expect to protect us basically say we need to get over it that it wasn't as bad as we think it was. Even if they don't say it verbally, they say it with their actions.

The way I deal with it is the same way I dealt with the teacher I told who did nothing about it; I just accept I can not change them. I can only change me and my response to their actions. For what ever reason they can not handle the truth. Unfortunately, I have lived in the truth all these years and have not been able to escape it, even with my alcoholism and emotional detachment. In these situations the saying Life is not fair speaks more than volumes as there is nothing fair about sexual abuse.

Take care, Hippy, you are not alone.