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Yesterday, my ah had to go to a business golf outing. He is a functional A and actually quit over the summer, was doing well but relapsed recently. I know my AH can not say no to any alcohol when it is around (esp. when I am not there to watch him). He told me he would probably have a beer or two while at this. All I said was, be careful driving and he knew I still did not approve. Anyway, he went, came home a little early and was "so proud" that he only had 2 beers and his co workers were still there getting smashed. I guess there was alot of 'free" alcohol along the course. He wanted praise from me for restraining himself with only 2. I told him 2 was 2 too many for and its all or nothing. Of course then he somehoe turned the converstion over to sex, of course wanting it.... Then we started to talk about his health and how he is also supposed to get some blood work done from a physical he got while sober back in June but since he began drinking, he is not going until he quits again. I am sure he is probably diabetic, he is overweight, drinks alot of water, goes to the bathroom...all the symptoms (plus his dad was type 2-eventually lost both legs and his life). He eventually went to bed and started snoring almost immediately! Thoughts on this? I am tired after 20 + years of on again off again drinking (more on than off). He is a good husband, father but has this one major flaw. Yes, my life is not all that bad which is where I succumb to this disease...how cunning of him...he has had the same job for 14 years, pays the bill, am not in debt...so I allow this behavior to continue. he is never abusive, just usually emotional and chatty while he "secretly" does his thing. Sometimes I do feel as though I am over reacting when I see the positives but those negatives always come to mind...mainly his health which is where we are at right now. Opinions welcome. Thanks for listening to my rant. Peace to all.
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