When I detached from my AH I was able to look at his actions and see what was REALLY happening as opposed to believing his words. It hurt to see the truth, but now it is very liberating to know what the truth is and that I'm not crazy. Like most alcoholics he would say one thing and then do the opposite and then tell me I was imagining things or "nuttin' up". He would blame me, but I knew the truth and he couldn't convince me otherwise anymore.