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Last year I got in touch with my daughters father and arranged to meet him so my daughter could meet him and maybe they could establish a relationship. She'd never met him (well was a baby last time he saw her) and she turned 13 this year.
Orginally this guy was on my amends list. I was to make amends to him for my part of our sick relationship and sort stuff out with him regarding our daughter.
It took me nine sober years to get in touch with him, it's take this long for various reasons, but I have not made amends to him regarding our relationship.
Dunno if I ever will BUT from the little conversation we have had he certainly see's what happen between us very differently to how I see it.
He's an alcoholic. I met him the night he walked out of a treatment centre. I was 15 and he was my ticket out of home! But it sure was outta the frying pan and into the fire.
However just meeting up with him and talking made me see that he wasn't the 'horrible monster' my head swore he was and I also could see why I fell in love (if you could call it that) with him, in the first place.
Your post remind me of all this. Thanks.
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