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My stepsister is 40. Her father bailed her out time and time again. She used and dealt drugs since she was a teenager (not to mention stints involving prostitution and id theft). She finally got her act together about 5 years ago and is now a counselor in a rehab facility.
She recently told my mother she wishes her father had NOT bailed her out all those times, so that she might have experienced her bottom sooner and she could have had more time sober in her life.
Her father thought he was her savior. Despite everyone telling him he wasn't doing her any good, he fought like hell (almost lost his marriage and caused some real damage to it) to rescue her. And what did he get in the end? A thank you? Nope, just the opposite. All that time, energy and funds were for nothing. They did more damage than good, according to the very person he thought he was saving.
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