[marle]

Sometimes we parents have to say "enough is enough" and find a better way of life. My daughter hit her bottom when she was ready, not because of anything that I did or did not do. She is in recovery and I am very supportive. If she chooses to go back out and use, she will be on her own. I love her now and I will love her no matter what, but I won't ruin my life chasing her around and trying to make her better. That is her job. I have my own. No one but your husband is responsible for what is happening to him. When I was growing up my mother used to tell me that "you made your bed, now lie in it". In other words we are all responsible for our own behavior. Your husband will find recovery when he is ready and the only thing your being there to champion for him will do is give him someone to blame when things don't go his way. Step aside and see what he is capable of doing. You may be surprised. Hugs, Marle