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Originally Posted by Callie  If I leave he has NOTHING but his codie mother. She's EXTREMELY codie. The roles between mother and son are completely reversed because AH is in control of that. Without me his entire family (except his mom) turns their back on him. My entire family turns their back on him. Does he deserve all of this -- probably yes. But that means taking my kids, ah, his family down too. I'm not trying to toot my own horn but there is NOBODY in his family who will stand up and fight for him. NOBODY. His very own dad who he loves and cherishes hasn't called for 1.5 weeks. I tell you if it were )MY( son I'd be fighting tooth and nail. AH's dad has his "own life' and can't be bothered. Foreign to me I guess. |
I hope you never have to experience having a child in active addiction.
I have been on both sides of the fence, as a recovering addict, and as a recovering codie.
My oldest daughter got kicked out of rehab in less than a week because she wanted a bed and breakfast and would attend classes when she wanted to.
When I went to rehab and was finally allowed to call my parents, the first thing out of my mother's mouth was 'You don't belong there with those people'!
I did not have the support of my family when I first got clean. My husband at the time was still actively using, and 2 hours away.
The only support I got from him were phone calls threatening to kill me if I didn't leave rehab and come home.
The resources out there for an addict in recovery, including, and for me, most importantly, other recovering addict are limitless.
Someone who truly wants to get clean and change their life does
not have to have family support to do it.
I am living proof.