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Sorry Callie - they are ABSOLUTELY right. I didn't want to hear it either, but even though you won't believe me, you will actually make this worse for everybody if you don't set hard boundaries and keep them. Look at your posts and the time frames. Don't do a thing for a while (ie, more than a day). Tell him you have to see some real progress before you'll consider letting him live in the same house with your kids. Remember what he was doing the day before he checked in? You didn't have a clue!
The best indicator of future performance is past performance. Ask a million people who've been through this - they will say anything to get what they want! Make him show you something! I've seen people at my XAH's treatment facility who've been in and out of treatment up to 16 times. This is excruciating business and we non-addicts don't get to check out and forget from time to time. Step back and tell him you need some time and space to figure out what YOU need to do for YOU and the KIDS. Don't let him rush you. What he says is meaningless, utterly, only go by what he does.
Read what you felt like this morning - are you willing to go through it again?
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