I'm sorry to hear he bailed, but after all you have been telling us, it doesn't really surprise me. Sounds like he was looking for a way out from the time he got there.
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I will not let him come home right now.
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Good choice Callie.
Sometimes it is just better for us and for them if we just quit answering the phone when they call. Believe me. I know it's hard. But I'm healthier and better able to take care of my son, when I'm not trying to deal with my ex's addiction and all the lies and stories that go with it.
I know that when he is really serious about getting clean and sober, he'll do it whether or not I am supporting him. Actually, me supporting him and listening to his bullshit will probably only hold him back from true recovery. He has to want it on his own. NOTHING I do or don't do can affect his true will to get and stay clean.
So for me, no contact is the lesser of two evils. Yep. It's sad that the children have a drug addict for a father. But if he wants to get clean, he will. He has had every opportunity and so much help offered to him - and still he refuses to do whatever it takes to quit using.
It's truly in God's hands. The only control we have is damage control for our children.