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Callie,
Please listen to what everyone here is saying to you. Reach deep down into your emotions for the strength to accept the truth. Pray for courage to stick to your boundaries and pray for the wisdom to know his truth not what you wish for it to be.
You had nothing to do with him using while in rehab for if you were that powerful he’d be clean wouldn’t he?
His threat of remaining high for the rest of his life if he doesn’t have you and his kids is a way to manipulate you and use your emotions against you for his own gain. As someone mentioned he is trying to hold you hostage and that is not love so don’t be fooled. It’s his self love for his drink and drug and for things to remain in his control so he can continue to use.
You state his mother is extremely codie so watch her behavior and don’t repeat it for yourself. We all have codie tendencies it’s to what degree we fall back on those unhealthy behaviors that does us and opens the door for the alcoholics/addicts to once again return with empty promises.
Anvilhead makes an excellent point if he couldn’t/wouldn’t stay clean in rehab then how in the hell is he going to do that on his own with no counseling/meetings or program to help him. If it were that easy wouldn’t he have done that by now? Don’t fool yourself into thinking he means it this time because he’s lost everything, the addict/alcoholic is still very much in charge of his addictions. And up until this point in time his best idea so far has been to drink and drug even in rehab.
Hold strong callie get control over your emotions as best you can because chaos causing emotions get us into repeated trouble and keep us unhappy and miserable.
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