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Old 08-12-2008, 05:52 AM   #4 (permalink)
Tazman53
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Usually, however, other people are involved. Therefore, we are not to be the hasty and foolish martyr who would needlessly sacrifice others to save himself from the alcoholic pit.
My sponsor and I have spoken of this, if I wound up in prison due to fessing up to something to clean my side of the street will this bring harm to my wife and children?

Do I put myself ahead of my family to save myself?

This is where talking with ones sponsor is crucial, yes we need to be willing to make all amends, but not at the expense of others.

mjs not knowing what you speak of I will with hold any opinion, that is something that I would suggest you pray long and hard on and then speak to your sponsor at length on. If the amends are due and it will result in financial difficulties for you and your family, well that is something between you, your HP, and your sponsor.

If it was one of my sponsee's looking to make amends about something financial and it would crush him and his family by making amends immediately I would probably suggest he set aside money each payday until he could afford to make the amends and then do so without ruining his families finances.
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