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Originally Posted by sobergirl77  I give rides to people when they need it. I clean up after meetings sometimes without being asked. I go to detox meetings and/or 12 step calls when asked. |
What struck me in your post is the term, 'when asked.'
How about turning up early to EVERY meeting and staying late at EVERY meeting?
How about offering rides to people? How about arranging rides in advance with people? I.e. Do you want me to pick you up later in the week?
How about making arrangements to go back to detox to visit whoever you've been to see?
How about phoning those people to see how they are that you've visited on 12 step calls?
How about getting a phone number each time you're at a meeting then phoning that person the next day to see how they are?
Dunno if you PM people on here, but how about PMing people when you relate to what they say, to thank them and share your ESH with them?
I am unsure if you've notice but most people who do this kind of stuff stay sober BUT from the outside it appears they got sober to do this stuff, when infact the opposite is true - we GET sober by doing this stuff. We can't think our way into better living but we can act our way into it.
The 'spiritual awakening' we expereince that the 12 step refers to is not only about that fact we achive soberity, but that our outlook on life changes/our personality changes so we become GIVERS rather than TAKERS.
You can't 'cure' your alcohol problem but God/Hp can, so how about you take care of the above 'earthly matters' and give God/Hp a chance to operate in your life?
If you thinking but I have nothing to give - my sponsor told me this is called self centred fear. Everyone no matter how sober can give something. That is why AA works the way it does.
