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These conditions, grandiosity, judgmentalism, intolerance ,impulsivity, and
indecisiveness taken separately or together can lead to the
following: a) Mood swings, which are unrelated to the circumstances to
which one tries to link them. Alcoholics zero in on what they want others to
think is the cause of the mood swing, when it isn't that at all. More often
than not it is something much deeper than the reason given. Inversely it can
also be something totally insignificant with no substance at all
(e.g. the sugar is too sweet or the donut is too round). Any excuse will do.
b) Unable to demonstrate emotions freely, naturally and without constraint.
No emotional spontaneity, no genuine spark. c) Introspection. A very healthy
thing to do is difficult if not impossible for the "dry drunk". It means to
look inward to one's examining each thought and desire, which is linked
directly to one's attitude. d) Detachment. Become aloof, display indifference,
don't care one way or the other, no special likes or dislikes, they withdraw.
e) Self-absorption- with a tendency to call attention to whatever they have attained.
Narcissism which is quite simply self-love. They become pompous asses.
f) The inability to appreciate or enjoy themselves - nothing satisfies.
g) Evidence of disorganization, is easily distracted, complains of boredom,
and nothing seems to fit. h) A nostalgia sets in, a kind of wistful yearning
for something of the past, such as freedom from care associated (falsely)
with drinking, bars, drinking associates, and friends; the music, blue lights,
and tinkle of the ice cubes in a glass in the neighborhood saloon.
i) There can be a kind of romanticism, which includes unrealistic valuations of
lifestyles and character traits which can be and usually are objectively
dangerous to one's sobriety. j) Escapism. Fantasizing, daydreaming, and wishful
thinking are very much in evidence in the dry drunk syndrome as the individual
slips farther and farther from reality.
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