[gamingkrib]

I went through the same issues, although a divine intervention with the law begin my journey. I started dating a new sober girl while we were both doing our 90/90, I was unique and could handle lol...
We both made it pass 90/90 but she began relapsing, and the process for her repeated itseld for years with major consequnces including her death at 30yrs old. In some ways it made me work the program harder since when she relapsed i was in more pain, yes codependent too but always worked a program for it...but it was hard. I was close to her family too, her father was 40 yrs sober as well and her mom was a alanon member jsut as long so they bot htaught me alot...one thing I did notice, while I was treking along building my career in Soberity (living to learn differnt) we become furhter aprt in all areas, emotinally, spirtual, socially, etc Although Iloved her very much, since we dealth with this for 7 yrs, everyday seemed hard to let go, not saying thats what ya should do, I dont give advice- sometimes list options.
but my story meaning is you might head in differnet directions, or merge.
I attended Alanon for her, so they kicked ME out...lol...wel not really. But its you who has to change., they maybe will. Put his name in the first step and see if it fits. if it does...your powerless. and work the rest from their.
After 24 yrs years now, married with kids and a great wife, It all happens for a reason. She helped me get sober in alot of other ways. Though painful, very hard, it brought me closer to people I needed, helped others to get out of my head, and have been rewarded - today, alot more more great todays I must say. I visit her grave every few years, I will always miss her.