[Astro]

I seriously f'd up my first amends to my ex. Let's see if I can make a long story short:

I dropped my kids off at her house. She came out, I started to make my amends. She didn't like them, and took the keys out of my car until I made them the right way. The guy she had an affair with (and is married to now) came out of the house. I dragged him out to the street and started beating my amends into him. Before midnight, I had an assault charge and restraining order added to my trail of wreckage.

So...........I'm sure we're not the first to handle an amends poorly, and we certainly won't be the last.

Specifics? Tough call on that one. The Little Red Book suggests that "We come clean with God and make amends to loyal friends and relatives except when to do so might be harmful to them or others".

In this case will the truth hurt her even further? If it were me I'd consider carefully how much I revealed to the person, but be as truthful and honest as possible. Make sense?