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The guy has very strong sobriety, and I identify with him an awful lot. We talk about it alot, and he helps me to understand how I feel and why I'm doing things. That said, I know that if you talk to enough people, one of them will tell you what you want to hear.

I'm not sure why I'm having an affair. Honestly, it wasn't intentional, I didn't start out thinking 'I want an affair', and neither did the other guy.

I think my issue is that I don't really identify with my sponsor anymore, and we have very different ideas of right/wrong, and what is acceptable. My husband and I have had/do have a very 'colourful' relationship, and while I think that makes my affair more understandable, I can't discuss those facts with my sponsor.