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odaat · 08-04-2008, 11:54 AM

I'm feeling a bit confused about what I do next.

I'm 20 months sober - half of that in AA. I've been working the steps with my sponsor.

I started having an affair four months ago. My sponsor has no experience of this, and doesn't know what to say or suggest.

She thinks that I can't get well while being dishonest.

I've not found recovery easy, and the affair started when I had a very low period. I had a suicide attempt not too long after it started, and still struggling with acute anxiety and depression, not to mention food/self-harm issues.

I have one 'friend' in AA, who to be honest I feel much close to, and apart from in name, I kinda view him as my sponsor. He is having a long-term affair and has been sober for a large number of days.

Does anyone else have experience of recovery and affairs?

08-04-2008, 11:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
odaat One Day At A Time Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: England Posts: 321	Working a dishonest program, what do I do? I'm feeling a bit confused about what I do next. I'm 20 months sober - half of that in AA. I've been working the steps with my sponsor. I started having an affair four months ago. My sponsor has no experience of this, and doesn't know what to say or suggest. She thinks that I can't get well while being dishonest. I've not found recovery easy, and the affair started when I had a very low period. I had a suicide attempt not too long after it started, and still struggling with acute anxiety and depression, not to mention food/self-harm issues. I have one 'friend' in AA, who to be honest I feel much close to, and apart from in name, I kinda view him as my sponsor. He is having a long-term affair and has been sober for a large number of days. Does anyone else have experience of recovery and affairs? __________________ Living sober is quite different from living dry.