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Originally Posted by lizakc  I'm a newbie, but nar-anon and al anon have been my sanity since i started going, just 2 weeks ago but for now I go every other day. My husband also only did painkillers, but even with a prescription it got to the point that he was shooting up, the painkillers. He recently tried recovery and hasn't done so well. he has gone to meetings but acts like they are an inconvenience to him. I have continued my meetings and he is doing his own thing, whatever that is. He got upset about the meetings a bit back. that's when i realized that before he relapsed, he started showing behaviors of using before he even actually did it. i probably wouldn't have realized that without the program. I know when/if he gets upset that i'm going to meetings, in my experience, it means he's hiding something and he's afraid i'll figure it out. |
lizakc - Keep going to the meetings- you obviously are getting a lot of of them. Recently, they have given me sanity as well, but it so easy to get caught up in the insanity and irrationality of why I shouldn't go... the anger and punishment/resentment for getting help. Tonight, she will barely speak to me, but like everything else, that too will also pass. Tonight I will just try and relax.
What you said about him getting upset meaning that he is hiding something really rings a bell here. Also, I never thought of relapse behaviors occurring prior to the actual relapse. Thank you so much for your insight- especially considering you are a newbie, like myself.