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Originally Posted by CatsnDogs4Me  but I don't want to put my life on hold forever. |
Then don't. I have been separated for 3 years. I have a life, I have a boyfriend (geez, that sounds weird to say at the age of 45), I have all the things I want and need and am aiming for a positive future for me. I initiated divorce proceedings over a year ago and let it languish till just recently because I wasn't ready to finalize it yet. I only recently took the steps to make the whole thing final because I think it's time. There is no rush on the one hand, but on the other hand there is nothing to stop you from doing what you want to do.
How about thinking in terms of what is best for YOU? What if being "fair" to him didn't matter? What if it was all about you? What would you do then?
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