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What would you change? Are you feeling ready to file for divorce? If so and that is what you think is best for you, do so. If you aren't ready for divorce, nothing needs to change, except of course him. You can remain separated as long as you want waiting for him to get sober and get into recovery. He may do it tomorrow. He may never do it. If that is ok with you, you don't have to change your legal status yet. Some people stay separated for long periods of time. Some eventually get back together with their A, even after a divorce.
I would be asking myself what I want and not be worrying about what he might want. I would be operating under the assumption that who and what he is right now is what and who he will continue to be.
If you think its over and you do not want to pretend otherwise, that should tell you what to do.
Personally I knew when I left it was over and I would never go back to xAH.
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I trust you are capable of handling your own life and I now stop interfering by trying to rescue you.
There's only one corner of the universe you can be sure of improving, and that's your own self. - Aldous Huxley
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