[Sugah]

I had a long list, too, Karen, when it came to my parents. One of the first things I had to do to make that list manageable was to look at how old I was at the time. There's an "age of accountability" in various schools of religious thought. Even the law recognizes it to an extent.

Children are selfish beings by necessity. It's how they get their needs met. It's how they survive. So, up to a certain age (for me, it was about thirteen), I prayed for acceptance and forgiveness of myself. After that age, I prayed for the willingness to forgive the other person. Like Laurie, it came in time. When I had that, I could then ask for forgiveness for my actions - and only my actions.

Peace & Love,
Sugah