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Old 07-15-2008, 12:20 AM   #3 (permalink)
laurie6781
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Question one is, am I qualified in doing my 4th step if I keep relapsing? I have done my first three steps repeatedly. I ask for God's will in my life most mornings.
I'm going to disagree completely with Nandm. Step 1 is the base we build our recovery on. If that base is built in sand instead of concrete, well then there we go relapsing.

If I were your sponsor, you would be working on Step 1. Sounds to me like you haven't ACCEPTED to the very core of your being that your are POWERLESS OVER ALCOHOL and that YOUR LIFE HAS BECOME UNMANAGEABLE.

That being said.....................nope I do not believe you are ready for step 4.

If in fact your 'sponsor' has been 'gossiping' about you behind your back, then first I would suggest you find a new sponsor for your own sake, life, and sobriety. Then start work with a NEW sponsor on step 1.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but hey those steps are numbered in order for a reason. We do not go on to the next step until we have COMPLETED, ACCEPTED, etc the first step!

J M H O but it's what work for this old broad. To me based on what you stated:

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I have been unable to stay sober for more than 10 to 13 days at a time since I entered the program. My last "relapse" was very recent.
You have to get Step 1, down to the core of your being, and the above says you are not yet convinced.

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