[lizw]

As some of you know, I ended up in SLAA 9 months ago, after 'dating' a guy who wasn't in recovery (all my experience b4 that was with guys in recovery) and I went pretty bonkas.

However that being said here are a few things I have learnt, from my time there.

If it feels okay (being in his company) then it is probably okay. If however you feel the need to impress him, talk yourself up and/or lie about parts of your life, then run for the hills!

You don't have to sleep with someone to show them you are attracted to them.

Just because you've been on a date or a few dates, doesn't mean you're going to marry the guy.

Let god in. Don't try to manage, control or manipulate the situation.

Base your relationship or potential relationship with him on today NOT on your or his potential.

Don't keep it in your head. Talk about what is or isn't happening with people.

Hope some of this helps. I assume most people learn this stuff as they go but because I have a history of sleeping round or long dependent relationships, I am learning this all for the first time myself. God help me when I have to put it into practise.