| I'm Sorry
To the OP...I feel for you because I can see things from both sides of the issue. I am an addict and have had serious problems maintaining an relationship. I just lost a relationship that should have never been lost....it was perfect in every way but I was not.
Not in defense of your boyfriend...being in recovery is so hard and having anyone look at you in anyway other than you are doing ok, makes you feel that much worse. Plus, there is a lot of guilt that goes with being an addict in a relationship...You feel as if the person you are with should do better than you and that you are never going to be good enough.
From your end I also see the point of view...you were probably there through many very bad times and to have someone you support say they can't handle the relationship, that is tough. I am almost certain that nothing you did or said was done to put them down in any way...rather you were just making sure that they were ok. Being an addictin recovery is so hard when it comes to criticism. That I can attest to
I certainly hope that things get better for you and for your boyfriend. Life itself is not easy...add an addiction or any other disease to that and it only makes it that much harder. I applaude you for staying by his side through what was and is probably the hardest time in his life.
You deserve kudos big time for that!!
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