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I appreciate how painful it is to see your daughter leave home: I think this was the most painful experience I have ever had. It also has made me come to face with my drinking problem.
In a way, I am grateful she did go because I was depending too much on her company, and she must have been aware, at some level, of my need. It is good that they are flying off into their own lives, and we can be proud that we sent them on their way--right?
[quote=sct;1821717]Hm. A very wise woman with 20 years clean posted a list of aphorisms on another forum I visit. My favorite is simply:
If you want to stop using... you're going to have to stop using.
That is really it in a nutshell, isn't it.
One thing I find very helpful is listening to the soothing logic of Eckhardt Tolle. He just makes sense when he talks about how we can get out of our "pain body," which is what he calls the misery we find ourselves in--a misery that we unconsciously maintain.
You can listen to free videos of him on Youtube (just seach Eckhardt Tolle Youtube).
Best
Theresa
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