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First, I'm sorry for you.
Secondly, yes, it's very normal for the addict to have mood swings, and addicts are nothing, if not self-centered, and entitled.
It's not fair to those of us who love them, but it's who they are.
The thing is...even though they might be CLEAN, it takes time for them to be SOBER (fully in touch with how the addiction hurt them, and others).
Furthermore, it's going to take some time for the addicts brain chemistry to balance out. The substances have taken a toll on them physically, and mentally. If the brain chemistry is out of wack, the moods and decision making processes naturally are going to be out of wack.
Along with this, addicts carry around so much baggage. Part of that baggage is dealing with shame and guilt. I had to come to the realization, that as unfair as it was to me, my pressence could make my ex's shame and guilt worse. Yes, he hurt me, yes it's his fault, but he's human, and no human wants to go around feeling shame and guilt all the time. So, if a person is recovering from a very toxic place, it might take some time for them to have enough self love, and confidence to face people from the past, without the toxidity of shame and guilt.
My only other advise...don't take it personally, don't take the addiction personally.
Oh yeah, like the poster said, hang out in the "friends and family of" section. They've helped a lot, or it helps to read the post of people like you.
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