Originally Posted by
tiburon88 
IMO spending time with your family is number one.
Tib, Good to see you on the boards these days, I'd agree family time is essential, however, unless they had specific exact instructions on how to recover from alcoholism by having a spiritual awakening, I'd suggest the original poster find a recovered alcoholic and work out of the Big Book, ASAP.
A sober alcoholic with no program isn't exactly a sunbeam of joy to be around, at least not the ones I've encountered.The family as a whole, will benefit greatly as a result of their loved one going through the process.