glad to hear you are so seriously looking at these quesitons. For me, when I returned to AA after 8 years of treatment and a stay at a treatment center, I was asked if I could commit to 3 meetings a week. I have 3 committed meetings (I only miss if something really important comes up). I usually end up attending 5 meetings. I spend alot of time with aa friends, go to a woman's coffee & bb study group and several religous based activities. However, ONLY the 3 meetings and one spiritual activity do I have commitment to. On all others, if I need to clean house, go visit my family, spend time with my son...or even have a good tv show on....are optional.
It's worked well for me. Many people have gotten sober in AA when only 1 meeting a week...or even no meetings were available.
thanks for posting.