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Gemini82 · 06-08-2008, 02:26 AM

I have a good friend of mine whome I am starting to question whether or not to stay in the friendship. I won't really get into the details, but I have always been pretty paranoid about people ... keep to myself.. and well.. drug myself to make it all go away (in private). What can I do to get better and gain better judgement of people without the drugs covering up my bad feelings about everyone?

Well, this last week I visited a couple friends I had not seen in a while. Jenna, I had not seen in over 8 years, and Elisabeth I see every other month or so. Elisabeth and I live 2 hours away from each other and Jenna lives in Cali still, so it is difficult to visit often. We all new each other from high school. Anyway, Jenna and I had a great time visiting... however, Elisabeth's attitude has seemed to change. She seemed to go out of her way to embarrass me, or say comments that are rude... I can't seem to shake off the feeling that Elisabeth has some beef with me... not sure what. :wtf2 I know that she is going through a lot (her hubby had been suicidal and her son has some behavioral issues). I can understand her fustrations... but I feel like her beating pad... is this normal? Or, should I shake it off? The thing that gets me is, I ALWAYS treat people with respect and I never seem to get this in return. Some peope seem to go out of their way to treat others with disrespect. I also would like to say I have high expectations in people.

OK, so... how can I tell if there is something truly wrong with me, or if I am just paranoid about people? This is something I have always struggled with. Therapists seem to know NOTHING. I keep on losing friends due to me thinking they are acting negatively towards me. It is not like I do not have any friends... I just keep my distance from most people, because I ALWAYS sense negative feelings from people. I wish I did not care so much... Can anyone tell me the qualities they look for in people, and what to stay away from? ... and how I can snap out of this if all this crap is just in my head?

06-08-2008, 02:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
Gemini82 Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 20	Paranoia?? I have a good friend of mine whome I am starting to question whether or not to stay in the friendship. I won't really get into the details, but I have always been pretty paranoid about people ... keep to myself.. and well.. drug myself to make it all go away (in private). What can I do to get better and gain better judgement of people without the drugs covering up my bad feelings about everyone? Well, this last week I visited a couple friends I had not seen in a while. Jenna, I had not seen in over 8 years, and Elisabeth I see every other month or so. Elisabeth and I live 2 hours away from each other and Jenna lives in Cali still, so it is difficult to visit often. We all new each other from high school. Anyway, Jenna and I had a great time visiting... however, Elisabeth's attitude has seemed to change. She seemed to go out of her way to embarrass me, or say comments that are rude... I can't seem to shake off the feeling that Elisabeth has some beef with me... not sure what. :wtf2 I know that she is going through a lot (her hubby had been suicidal and her son has some behavioral issues). I can understand her fustrations... but I feel like her beating pad... is this normal? Or, should I shake it off? The thing that gets me is, I ALWAYS treat people with respect and I never seem to get this in return. Some peope seem to go out of their way to treat others with disrespect. I also would like to say I have high expectations in people. OK, so... how can I tell if there is something truly wrong with me, or if I am just paranoid about people? This is something I have always struggled with. Therapists seem to know NOTHING. I keep on losing friends due to me thinking they are acting negatively towards me. It is not like I do not have any friends... I just keep my distance from most people, because I ALWAYS sense negative feelings from people. I wish I did not care so much... Can anyone tell me the qualities they look for in people, and what to stay away from? ... and how I can snap out of this if all this crap is just in my head? Last edited by Gemini82; 06-08-2008 at 02:50 AM.