[daisyjen]

it may still be far off though...

I went to my 1st psych appt on Friday, and it went wonderfully... The dr is also ACOA and seems to understands codependency well. I am actually looking forward to more sessions, because I can feel my health within reach now.

My dilemma? RAH left a loving card and chocolate in my car before my appt. I was pretty stressed and worried about the appt so I didnt call him right away to thank him. (Lately, I see these little gestures as possible manipulation, but I could be wrong.) After the appt, I had a VERY full day of errands with the kids and stuff. RAH left messages on my phone and when I got back to him I forgot about mentioning the card and candy. He mainly was pressuring me to visit his family a few hrs away with the kids and him this wkend. Since we arent getting along well and his interfering family knows about my emotional affair with another man, I did not feel comfortable going and told him so numerous times earlier. He asked the Dr's take on it. Well, the Dr felt that we should not put more stress on our already strained marriage and that I should avoid going.

RAH wanted to know what else was said and I told him that it was my personal appt and I didnt want to go over everything with him. He called me a B*itch and hung up on me.

Later last night, as I was getting ready for bed, he told me that he really felt I needed to go and just face his family. He said it is necessary for my healing and would make him feel better. I said it would make me feel bad and I was not going.

Well, all hell broke loose... He yelled, called me names, said I was a disgrace and dispicable and that he would see a lawyer Monday to get our divorce started and that I needed to get my stuff out of the house by Sunday. He mentioned that I never thanked him for the candy and I am unappreciative of him. Instead of moving to another bedroom, (he'd just follow and continue his rant) I went to a hotel for the night. Apparently, he took the kids to visit his family today, while I spent today with my sister.