Jacki,
I'm sorry for your pain.
There's a forum here on SR, specifically for the friends and family of alcoholics.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
There, you can find much support from people who hare going through the same things you have and are experiencing. And through sharing our experience, strength and hope, we learn to get on with our lives, and learn to thrive once more.
Also, I highly recommend alanon meetings. The 12 Step program helps many facing those same problems of a loved one who has problems with alcohol.
I hope this helps. Let us know. We care.
Shalom!