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lostsoul7 · 06-01-2008, 09:07 PM

Thanks everyone for your encouraging replies.
As of now I've decided that I could not handle the constant pain, stress and overall unhappiness that he has caused me and I needed to take a break from our relationship. So a few days ago I told him everything I ever wanted to say to him and he understood it all. He said he knew it had to happen and that he needs to fix himself and love himself before he can ever be capable of being a good boyfriend to me. So even though I go from hot to cold in a matter of minutes, I know this is the best thing for me, and for us. I feel relieved that I do not have to add more stress to myself by going to meetings/activities related to his problem and addiction. I feel free to be happy on my own and not have to burden myself with the negativity he's imposed on me. Even though it hurts like hell, I know this is what I needed to do.

06-01-2008, 09:07 PM	#14 (permalink)
lostsoul7 Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: california Posts: 10	Thanks everyone for your encouraging replies. As of now I've decided that I could not handle the constant pain, stress and overall unhappiness that he has caused me and I needed to take a break from our relationship. So a few days ago I told him everything I ever wanted to say to him and he understood it all. He said he knew it had to happen and that he needs to fix himself and love himself before he can ever be capable of being a good boyfriend to me. So even though I go from hot to cold in a matter of minutes, I know this is the best thing for me, and for us. I feel relieved that I do not have to add more stress to myself by going to meetings/activities related to his problem and addiction. I feel free to be happy on my own and not have to burden myself with the negativity he's imposed on me. Even though it hurts like hell, I know this is what I needed to do.