On a side note - I don't think women can "have someone on the side" as easily as men
Actually even though mentally there are more men that would
like a woman on the side, to actually have someone on the side if wanted a woman has a far easier time finding someone on the side. When I was out there most of the women I was playing were married or living with a guy.
I wouldn't use this guy as a poster boy for AA
No kidding Dee, he sure is not living the steps. Carol nailed it, he is simply looking for some on the side and that is it right now.
SS I would suggest that you go to Alanon or some group like that and learn how to take care of your self better. You are so much better then what this guy is, you really need to just move on.