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Clutch B · 05-29-2008, 06:42 PM

My fiance REALLY wants to stop smoking. He's been alcohol and drug-free for almost 20 years, but he feels very ashamed that he can't stop smoking.

He stopped smoking for two months last summer, but the Chantix didn't do well for him (depression). He always apologizes for lighting up in front of me. I tell him I love him and admire him - whether he smokes or not. He talks about quitting all the time, but he does nothing. He simply keeps "apologetically" lighting up. I'm sad to see him so ashamed of himself.

I want to support him, but I'm afraid that I might accidentally make things worse.

What is the best way that your friends and family can support you?

Since good intentions can backfire ... what kinds of "supportive" things have your friends and families done for you that made things worse?

05-29-2008, 06:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
Clutch B Just another Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA Posts: 184	What's the best way for your family/friends to support you? My fiance REALLY wants to stop smoking. He's been alcohol and drug-free for almost 20 years, but he feels very ashamed that he can't stop smoking. He stopped smoking for two months last summer, but the Chantix didn't do well for him (depression). He always apologizes for lighting up in front of me. I tell him I love him and admire him - whether he smokes or not. He talks about quitting all the time, but he does nothing. He simply keeps "apologetically" lighting up. I'm sad to see him so ashamed of himself. I want to support him, but I'm afraid that I might accidentally make things worse. What is the best way that your friends and family can support you? Since good intentions can backfire ... what kinds of "supportive" things have your friends and families done for you that made things worse? __________________ (Big Book quotes are from the First Edition of the Big Book)