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SS234 · 05-29-2008, 11:37 AM

Thanks Bernadette and bigredme - your replies were very clear and shed a lot of new light.

I especially like the quote below from Bernadette pasted below. It's been only a few weeks so I keep thinking about him treating this "new woman" so much better and am trying to deal with that part now. Can a "good" person really string someone along for so long and then be completely different with someone else? I've never strung anyone along - just don't find that natural - I either like someone or not.

"Don't fret about whether he will be different with a different woman. That's a total waste of energy. Who cares!~ You're assuming the other woman is just like you, has the same needs as you etc. Maybe she doesn't need to feel "respected" like you do, maybe she needs to be with someone who is selfish and unavailable to her. See? It's absolutely fruitless to imagine that his relationship with her is like yours but "better." Impossible. 2 people bring 2 unique sets of needs, attitudes, behaviors to a relationship. So let it be."

05-29-2008, 11:37 AM	#4 (permalink)
SS234 Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 31	Thanks Bernadette and bigredme - your replies were very clear and shed a lot of new light. I especially like the quote below from Bernadette pasted below. It's been only a few weeks so I keep thinking about him treating this "new woman" so much better and am trying to deal with that part now. Can a "good" person really string someone along for so long and then be completely different with someone else? I've never strung anyone along - just don't find that natural - I either like someone or not. "Don't fret about whether he will be different with a different woman. That's a total waste of energy. Who cares!~ You're assuming the other woman is just like you, has the same needs as you etc. Maybe she doesn't need to feel "respected" like you do, maybe she needs to be with someone who is selfish and unavailable to her. See? It's absolutely fruitless to imagine that his relationship with her is like yours but "better." Impossible. 2 people bring 2 unique sets of needs, attitudes, behaviors to a relationship. So let it be."