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As selfishness seems to be a common theme in many of these threads regarding characteristics of alcoholics, can recovering alcoholics become good parents?

I was seeing a recovering alcoholic for 1.5 years who had 15 years of sobriety. He was about to turn 40 - and most of you now how that can feel - and he would mention wanting to have children.

At the same time though, he was telling me that he was going through a selfish phase and could not "give". Meaning he did now want an exclusive relationship.

I'm having a hard time letting him go but have to! Just thought I saw potential there and a desire from him to want a "normal" life.

With the right person he may not be so selfish? He told me a few weeks ago that he met someone - she happened to be away that weekend and he said I could meet up with him - I said no which i'm proud of. Sad though at his nerve to basically end things with me by telling me he met someone yet able to ask me to meet him (basically use me). After I knew him for so long he seemed to completely disrespect me.

Is he capable of respecting people - this "new person"?? After 15 years of sobriety? I guess there are "normal" people out there who act like this which may not make this an "alcoholic" issue.