[nandm]

Sorry about that last post, I went to the newcomers thread and was able to find answers to my questions

I live with chronic pain, and I do have to take narcotic pain meds. I have never abused them.
In most cases I have a high pain threshold. I have had a few bladder infections without ANY pain. In fact they got so the only way I knew I had them was because I was peeing blood. In addition I have had strep throat without pain, if it werent for the rash I would not have known I had it.
However with fibromyalgia and ruematoid arthritis I am is horrific pain. It's all I can do to make it to work and home to do a bit of laundry. I am worn out by 12 noon most days and by the time I get home from work I am so exhausted every little thing is a struggle.
I not only feel like a terrible mother and wife, but I get quite depressed which I guess is common with chronic pain.

You have a lot on your plate. What therapies are you using right now to deal with the pain and depression?

From what you wrote about your son and husband you are not a terrible wife and mother. It sounds like they are both doing well and succeeding in life, you have a part in that.

Chronic pain can be so frustrating not only for the person experiencing it but also to the people closest to them. It sounds like that is what your husband was reacting to the frustration of not being able to help, having his life affected by the pain that you experience, seeing someone he cares about in pain and not being able to change it, and so many other things.

Try not to let yourself get too discouraged right now. It might be time to speak with your doctor, see a rheumatoidologist, a pain clinic, a specialist in fibromyalgia. They might be able to help you find a workable solution to your pain and get it more managable so you can have your life back, your son can have his mother back, and your husband can have his wife back.

Take care.

Judith