[Tazman53]

Hon talk to your sponsor, keep in mind that the only person you can keep sober is you!

Think back to when you first came into the rooms, where you ready? Really ready?

If you were really ready you were really willing to do what ever it took to get and stay sober. Your sponsee may not be ready, there is nothing you can do to make her ready. As a sponsor your job is not to keep them sober, your job is to share your ESH and to help them work through the steps.

Do not beat your self up because a sponsee chooses not to follow directions, that is not your fault.

Are you there for her if she needs you?
Will you answer questions if she asks?
Will you share your ESH with her?
Will you help her work the steps?

If the answer is yes then you have done all you can.

I could answer yes to all of those questions with my first sponsee, he had about 4 months sober when I became his sponsor, I suggested he may want to think about going to more then one meeting a week, he said he did not have the time. The day after he picked up his 6 month chip he called me and said he just did not have time to work the steps nor to attend the one meeting a week he was going to, he thanked me for beiing his sponsor........ Well I did all I could do, I told him I enjoyed knowing him and if he ever needed to just talk to call me and if he decided he wanted to start going back to AA I would be more then happy to go with him. It has been almost a year, and not a word.

I was a little upset, but my sponsor asked me "Are you sober?" I said yes and he replied then you did what you could.