| DrugFree,
I know that you want help coping mentally with getting clean (& sober?) while others are doing drugs around you. And that you pretty much have your mind set that you are going to have to learn to live with drugs around you. But I have to agree with Barb, above.
Maybe you can do it (stay clean while your roommates use). People probably have done it before. My guess is that when someone comes into your house and wants to smoke and you don't want to tell them no, you're going to need to get up and go for a walk, take a shower or put music on and get involed on the computer - anything that helps remove your mental focus from what is going on right beside you or in the next room.
But, in terms of my own experience, I'd had to eliminate alcohol from my house. At least for now. I can't imagine maintaining my sobriety with alcohol nearby in my house. My home is my refuge. I'm facing temptation all the time when I go out. I don't want to face it in my own home. I would be so incredibly resentful of the people who were drinking that I would no longer enjoy being home. I don't want to live with more resentments than I already have. I'm trying to get rid of those, not build on them!
Right now, I'm following the recommendations of my treatment center counselor and my AA sponsor to the penny. I am doing absolutely everything they say. I do not want to relapse and hurt my family all over again. I would be terribly humiliated if, after all this time and money and effort, I fell down. I've made promises to myself and to my husband and to my mother. So, in order to do this, I have to put my sobriety first. I have to protect it and keep it safe. I can't let other things that want to be more important take precidence over my sobriety. My sobriety is most important and that's all there is to it.
I think my most important advice to you is to contemplate very seriously whether or not you are putting other things in front of your sobriety? Because that is (we know this from the experience of others) a risk to your sobriety. And, depending upon how serious you are about your sobriety, it may not be worth it.
Good luck,
MLE |