(((Callie)))
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He screws up left and right and I'm so sick of picking up the pieces from the bombs that he sets off in my life, our life.
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I'm sorry you are dealing with this chaos. I understand it completely. My ex is a gambler who was gambling away the mortgage. Lie was his middle name. My son is a heroin addict. He's in jail once more for driving without a liscense. Just got picked up yesterday. Belive me, I know the bombs all too well...
The only thing you can do is learn to take care of *you.*
You cannot help him at all. He has to do that.
Don't believe me? Hear it from the addict himself; Jon can tell you:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ddicts-do.html (What Addicts Do)
Who's Jon? The original founder of this site.
Alanon or naranon meetings would be wonderful. And that link is to the friends and familys of substance abusers forum of SR. Please take the time to get aquainted with some of the old timers there; the ones who have what you want. Learn from them. They are happy to share their ESH, (experience, strength and hope).
Remember above all the three C's.
You didn't cause it;
You can't control it;
and you can't cure it.
But, you *can* learn to cope with it!
Try to get Codependent No More too. It's available at Amazon.com. A great book that will open your eyes.
Wish you the best... Please let us know how you make out. *hug*
Shalom!